The Christian theme is “wait”. If you can wait, you can make it to heaven because everything God promises includes a waiting period. Singles (and married people) who are unable to wait on God to either bring them a spouse (or heal their marriage) end up in sin.
Behind racism, fornication and adultery are the largest global sins out of the Bible that’s plaguing the world. Fornication and adultery have always been sin. It doesn’t matter who is doing it; whether the preacher, a parent, the president, or the spouse of a disabled person who feels he/she has the “right” to.
Your marriage is only as good as the spirit that joined it together. If the love of money brought you together, money will have to keep you together (or lack of it will tear you apart). If it was joined by good looks, your looks will need to keep you together. But if you were joined by the Holy Spirit, God will keep you together.
time is your friend…it tells you everything ~Terri
I met a pastor of a very large church a while back who wanted me to visit his city and attend his church. I asked God if this was OK (since it’s God’s kingdom, God’s church and we were both God’s children), although I didn’t see anything wrong with it…and everyone else was doing it.
But God said, “No”.
Even though God said “no”, I would still imagine the trip and how much fun it could be. I imagined myself on the flight, getting off the flight, and catching a cab. But strangely, after I got in the cab, my imagination would hit a dead end. I could never imagine anything after that. I am very accustomed to planning trips; I’ve traveled all my life all over the world. But this plan always went black after I caught the cab, as if to say, ‘the end’. Strangely, my imagination and planning just wouldn’t go any farther. So, I then knew that it was God.
I asked God again a few days later because the pastor kept trying to encourage me to visit. Well, God told me again, “No”!!!!! And it was an angry ‘no’ this time. The kind that said, “…and if you defy me, you will get completely off course and your destiny will be forever altered”. He also put my finances in disarray to make sure I knew He was serious… and if I went ahead anyway, I would be in blatant disobedience.
After He tore up my bank account, I was like “Really, Lord? Was it that serious?”
As I sat with no money, I pondered these things in my heart over the next couple of days. I read some passages in the Bible and got to the story of Isaac and Rebekah. As I read, God told me that He would send my husband to me and that I don’t have to go look for, visit, or compete with anybody for anything that he has for me.
I later saw floods of stories in the media about this pastor luring young (and old women) into fornication and adultery (God fearing church women). When he was asked about his actions, his explanation was, “These are born-again women, so they should be able to hear God for themselves!”
God spoke life before He formed it
God spoke everything into existence in the beginning and gave it purpose and direction before He set it into action; He spoke it, formed it, and gave it life. God spoke our destiny into existence in the beginning. We were formed and given direction, but we don’t receive true life until we receive the Holy Spirit. When we are born again, He breathes into us the breath of life, which begins to mold us into His image and into our purpose for His kingdom – even preparing us for our mate.
I believe that when God has someone for us and we’re waiting for them, God will put us in a situation so that we will meet them and get to know them. I believe He has a small window for courting before marriage just to get acquainted – because His goal is marriage, not dating. If the two of you are close to Him and hearing Him, you will be led by Him.
I don’t believe that Christians should date for years and compare relationships, and I do not believe they should live together to see if they are compatible. When God sends a husband to his wife, they won’t need to rely on long-term dating, courting or sex to verify what God said. He has already done the footwork…and narrowed it down to one.
if they are not surrendered to God, don’t surrender to them ~Terri
If you’re waiting for a mate who looks like God, why are you accepting attention from those who look like Satan? And if we choose someone on our own, without God, and who is not in God’s will, we are then unequally yoked.
God matches us spiritually, physically, and emotionally for our past present and future. We may choose someone who is moral and look right but if they are not born-again, they will never be equally yoked with a believer because they have not gone through the blood or the fire. They are moral in the eyes of the world, but they have not been made righteous in the eyes of God. They are conformed to the world’s eyes, not God’s spirit. They will surely crack under pressure.
God won’t help you if you’re already helping yourself to what you want ~Terri
They can even be born-again and look good, but if God did not choose them for you, you are unequally yoked. God can see things down the road for their life that is not meant for you. You will be reaping what they have sown. Also, someone can be born-again but not growing. They refuse the testing of God and God can’t trust them – so you shouldn’t trust them either. If they haven’t been through the specific trials to make them who they need to be for you (as your mate), you will have some extra growing pains that you would not have if you marry the one God chooses.
When you are surrendered to God for your future spouse, He won’t allow the opposite sex to get close enough to misuse you or abuse you sexually, emotionally, or spiritually. He will kindly split you apart…or He will just demolish it with a bulldozer!!!!
drop rotten fruit when God says so (right where it is) ~Terri
Many people feel that it’s ok to just go on dates with people: let ‘um buy you lunch and dinner and other stuff (as a Christian) no matter how rotten their fruit is. Rotten fruit is people who talk about God (gossip) but don’t do what He said. Rotten fruit can even be born again church people who call His name but the fruit of the spirit in their life reeks! They may even have big strong gifts of the spirit (laying hands, etc.), but “Ye shall know them by their fruits.” Matthew 7:16.
Further, I don’t need a meal that badly because the conversation will be rotten, too. If they have already shown you little rotten fruit, will you stick around for the big stuff? Some people would rather have a short bad relationship that lasts too long and takes even longer to recover from than to have a lifelong relationship with someone that God has already cleaned up and ordained.
Some see bad fruit and feel that they’re just ‘fixer-uppers’ for a personal project. We do not have the power to change each other, only God does, when He directs us to those people. And unless you are living in righteousness and purity, God won’t direct you to someone to get caught up in their problems. Then when your mate comes along, you’ll be reeking of the bad fruit you’ve been hanging out with.
The person God has for you is tailor-made and God fearing. That means you won’t get him by being an ordinary, carnal woman with carnal motives doing carnal things. And he won’t get you by being a player. God is shaping and molding the both of you to come together at a specific time; not by might, not by power but by the Spirit of God (and obedience). God will tell you everything you need to know to meet him and keep him.
Acts 5:39 “But if it be of God, ye cannot overthrow it; lest haply ye be found even to fight against God”
If God put you together, He can keep you together if you rely on Him. After God joins you, let no man even try to tear you apart…not even you or him. “Touch not my anointed” means anything or anybody that God has anointed to be in covenant with Him (e.g., marriage (between man and woman), anointed people, and anointed things).
A well-known couple was married recently, and a carnal person blurted out, “I don’t know what he sees in her!”. I said, you’ll never know what he sees in her because he’s probably not looking with his eyes; he sees way beyond her physical appearance to her spirit.
When you know that God sent your mate, you won’t need to test them about their past, present or future. God has already tested them to make sure they work.
